Venus Square Mars

Ninety degrees between Venus and Mars means what attracts you and how you pursue are running in different styles at the same intensity. Same modality, clashing element, six to eight degrees of orb. The result is a person whose approach keeps sabotaging their own taste, or whose taste keeps selecting people their approach cannot hold.

Because both planets can move quickly and Venus is limited to forty eight degrees from the Sun, a Venus-Mars square also tells you something incidental about Mars. It sits well away from your Sun, so your drive and your identity are not fused either.

The most common report is friction in exactly the places that are supposed to be pleasurable. You want closeness and then create distance at the moment it becomes available. You are drawn to people who are hard to reach and lose interest once they are reachable. Chemistry, for you, is partly manufactured by resistance, and when the resistance disappears so does the chemistry.

This can be genuinely hard on partners, who experience it as being pursued and then punished for being caught. Saying it plainly early, and taking responsibility for the pattern instead of blaming the partner for becoming less interesting, is most of the repair.

The square does not go away, but the fuel source can be changed. The mature version relocates the needed friction from the relationship into shared external effort. Couples who build something demanding together, a business, a renovation, a physical discipline, tend to keep the charge alive without generating it through conflict.

There is also usually a decade, often the thirties, where the person mistakes intensity for compatibility and works through several relationships figuring out the difference. Learning that calm does not mean dead is the specific lesson here, and it arrives late for most people with this aspect. The other reliable marker of progress is being able to stay through a boring stretch without concluding something is wrong.

In creative work this square is a genuine asset. It produces art with tension in it, and it makes you dissatisfied with the merely pretty. Many strong designers and musicians have it. The same restlessness that complicates a marriage keeps a body of work from going stale.

By transit, Mars squares your natal Venus for four or five days a couple of times per two year cycle, and Venus squares your natal Mars a few times a year for two days. Both tend to produce a short, sharp flare of wanting something you had not been thinking about. They are not good windows for making a decision you cannot reverse.